Before we are able to achieve intimacy with a person, place, or thing, we experience 3 states of awareness, comfort and familiarity. In the first state we experience our own comfort. Once we engage with the person (through conversation), place(through position), thing(physical interaction), there is usually an initial level of unfamiliarity or sometimes discomfort. This is a state that can range anywhere from short uncomfortable feelings of unfamiliarity to extreme levels of discomfort and uncertainty. Our instincts then prompt us to either spend more time in this state and continue to approach a level of intimacy or abandon the experience completely. By spending more and getting to know the person, place, or thing, we begin to familiarize ourselves with its existence, feeling, physical appearance, or vibe and our senses tend to move back toward a less-heightened state. Only by moving past this band of uncertainty can we begin to achieve intimacy.